What is left from my art of yesterday is in the fridge and in the hearts that were warmed in coming together in my home for Thanksgiving. It is the crack of dawn and I can hear the interstate hum guessing that many are out shopping. I am an odd bird who rarely enjoys going shopping. When it comes to shopping , like 007 I plan a mission and execute it. BTW, the new movie had no Bond gadgets, what's up with that!? Oddly I am having way too much fun exploring 1000 markets and Etsy for gifts. Gift buying with a specific list from the intended receiver can be easy yet I like the feeling of finding something you think will bring someone joy and surprise them. Studies have found that giving gifts is a surprisingly complex and important part of human interaction, helping to define relationships and strengthen bonds with family and friends. In giving gifts psychologists say it is often the giver, rather than the recipient, who reaps the biggest psychological gains from a gift. It is also important to not leave yourself out of receiving a gift. I am guilty of doing this in the past. I think I inherited the behavior from my mother. Harvard psychologist Ellen Langer stated, “If I don’t let you give me a gift, then I’m not encouraging you to think about me and think about things I like. I am preventing you from experiencing the joy of engaging in all those activities. You do people a disservice by not giving them the gift of giving.”
I am pausing now to think on this. How can I make a difference? What can I do through my art business to build relationships and spread joy? Is offering gift certificates and a wish list enough?
More thoughts run through my mind from one of my favorite childhood books of when the
Grinche's heart grew three sizes and he was overcome with the spirit of gift giving.
Above is "American Indian Woman" by Robin Maria Pedrero, in private collection